Watching my Hot Wife - Shared With my Boss

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The story that is to come is about a man, who we will call Jim, and the dinner party that takes all of this into account. Take it up a notch with the fact Jim and his wife were invited to dinner at his wife’s boss’s house from her brand new job. We are going to call her boss, Nancy, to lessen the confusion. First impressions were extremely important to Jim’s wife, and boy did he deliver and impression she and Nancy would never forget. Before this discovery I trusted my wife fully and I thought we were a model couple. I didn't recognize the signs that she was depressed, that she was cheating and I didn't recognize that I was depressed. I have beat myself up a bit about being so trusting but I have come to the conclusion that I did exactly what I was supposed to do. I trusted my wife as husbands are supposed to do. Be honest with yourself and stop pretending you want to see this other man for work reasons. I think your primary aim is to repeat that night, and I can understand why. An experience like that can be exciting and heady; but it’s not sustainable in the real world. Plus, you are married and he has made it obvious that he doesn’t want to see you. You need to listen to the silence from him. The other mans wife also needs to be told immediately as does HR. Their families also need to be told including children.

You work with people all the time in antisocial jobs and not many people can relate to that intensity,’ she explains. ‘Plus if your job requires a specific personality, your coworkers are likely to be similar to you.’ What is seen is just the tip of the iceberg,’ says psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author of the Relationship Paradigm books, Neil Wilkie. ‘Affairs are not just physical. There are also emotional affairs, where there is a sharing of deep personal information as well as inappropriate messaging and conversations.’ I confronted my wife and she looked at me resignedly and admitted to it. She said she only did it because she knew how great the promotion would be for me, and that managing director was the decision maker. And that she would do anything for me, even die for me, and this was no different. My wife – who’s steak was a nice medium rare and was unaware of my predicament – turned, jaw dropped, and stared at me like I was an alien from another planet. This look then slowly morphed into more of a there-is-no-place-on-this-planet-you-can-ever-hide-from-me expression of demonic anger. Anyway she then started talking to my male cousin just for advice and within 2 weeks they were sexting and sharing nudes… 95% of the chats were about marriage, me and how to make it better but she claims the 5% was just there way of an escape from reality and meant nothing just words and pics and nothing physical.I do not think she is a bad person just made a right old mess of things due to her state of mind and me been to blind to read the signs.

Over the years since the affair, I’ve learned a lot and have read volumes about what causes affairs and what motivates other to enter into secret relationships. Based on a pattern of often overlapping research data. I’ve come to the strong conclusion that a big part of the problem with infidelity is in how we as insecure human beings judge it. When we were young, we were idealistic as well as unrealistic as to how a long term relationship should be. We internalized a set of rules based on how we were raised, what our religion taught, on what our family and friends said was “the right way to act”. We formed a rigid construct, a binary concept of marriage that left little room for the inevitable changes that were bound to occur if we stayed together long enough. Pat, It’s very difficult to blindly trust once you have been betrayed. Since your boyfriend has also had this experience I would imagine he knows the depth of pain caused by betrayal. I agree it’s important not to react impulsively since that usually makes it hard to have a rational conversation. I believe it’s important to be honest when things like this happen, i.e. to tell him what you saw in a calm way and ask about it. Otherwise the fear and anxiety sits inside and will come out another way. Take care, Lori Here is the story. This happened 2 years ago. My wife had to go on a business trip about 10 hours away for 2 weeks. We have 2 kids under 10. This is a yearly thing to different places for the past 8 years. I know all the people that also go at the same time from her work. (She no longer works at this place). A lot of the women that she works with are around the same age or older and are single or divorced. This made me a little uncomfortable through the years, but they weren't too bad. She would tell me stories about how some of them had side pieces all over the place especially this one lady. I would hear stories about this lady going out of town and meeting this guy at every different opening because he worked for the company too at another location and they would make sure to be there together. I started struggling internally as to whether to tell him about the affair as I felt it was a huge secret to keep and I didn’t want to lie but It was no longer just about me and him? Lots of research showed the betrayed person just wishing they had never been told ( if the affair was over) so I contemplated that but couldn’t see us having a lasting marriage built on a lie…so So, what are the signs that your partner might be having a workplace fling? Here’s what to watch out for… Signs someone is having a workplace affair:So there are times when there cannot be any reconciliation! In my case i just described, there was far too much damage to ever save the relationship with her and I! I took my wedding band off and she noticed. I told her I took it off as you hurt me and it didn’t feel like the ring meant anything right now. My wife was still wearing her rings and through guilt, took hers off the next day and put them in her bedside draw. My wife said she is still confused with her feelings and has felt overwhelmed the last 7 weeks. I told her that’s because she has been emotionally connecting with her boss outside the marriage and then coming home and seeing her husband make huge improvements but not giving him any credit for it. I told her I can imagine how mentally draining that is. My wife explained to me that she was happy with our life before she had this affair but wondered if she was truly happy. She told me for once she put herself first and that’s part of the reason she did this. I told her that she has always put others before herself since I’ve known her, and that she does this because thats what makes her happy. I said as soon as you put yourself first in front of everything else, look what has happened? You’ve lost all your core beliefs and morals and had an affair with someone. I told her that she is doing exactly what her mother did to her father 4 years earlier. During that time, she told me she couldn’t believe what her mother did and that she never wants to be her mum…and here we are.